After They are Yours: The Grace and Grit of Adoption

Book Description:

Adoption offers a powerful testimony of grace in a world of unwanted pregnancies and on demand abortion. But no one said adoption is easy. As an adoptive parent and pastor, who has counseled many adoptive parents, Brian Borgman knows there is another side to adoption that we are often reluctant to talk about. Parenting is always a challenge, but parenting an adopted child can have some special challenges. Adoptive parents can experience much heartache and even guilt with their adopted children. Many suffer in silence. Borgman writes with a burden to minister to those who are struggling.

After They Are Yours: The Grace and Grit of Adoption talks transparently and redemptively about the often unspoken problems adoptive parents face. Combining personal experience, biblical wisdom and a heart for people, Borgman recalls the humbling and difficult lessons God has taught him and his wife. This is not a success story, rather it's a story of struggles and failures set in the broader context of a God who is gracious and continually teaches us the meaning of adoption.

Table of Contents:
1. From Conviction to Foster Care - Our Story, Part One
2. From Foster Child to Son - Our Story, Part Two
3. The Doctrine of Adoption
4. The Grace of Adoption - Ministry
5. The Grit of Adoption - Warfare
6. Grace to Guard Our Hearts
7. Grace to Readjust Our Thinking
8. Grace to Avoid Provocation
9. When We Don't Know What to Do
10. When We Don't Want to Do What We Should

Author:

Brian S. Borgman (DMin, Westminster Seminary California) is the founding pastor of Grace Community Church in Minden, Nevada. He earned a B.A. in Biblical Studies from Biola University (La Mirada, CA), a Master of Divinity from Western Conservative Baptist Seminary (Portland, OR) and a Doctor of Ministry from Westminster Seminary (Escondido, CA). He is the author of My Heart for Thy Cause. He and his wife have three children and live in northwestern Nevada.

Endorsements:

"It's all here - joy, hurt, and longing. And this is precisely what we most need: truth-telling that plunges beyond cliche and facade to speak of both the beauty and the brokenness that so often come woven together in adoption, all of it wrapped round by God's limitless grace."
--Jedd Medefind, President, Christian Alliance for Orphans and author of Becoming Home

"After They Are Yours is a compelling story about saying yes to God and then watching the Father shape and redeem his sons and daughters through love, grace, and mercy."
--Kelly Rosati, Vice President of Community Outreach, Focus on the Family

"The decision to adopt is heroic. The reality is often hard. This book does not sugar coat the sacrifice that comes standard with adoption. It will help those considering adoption count the cost. And it will provide encouragement and help for parents who have already welcomed a child into their forever family."
--Bob Lepine, Co-Host, FamilyLife Today

"This book will be a blessed resource for all parents who have adopted or are considering adopting a child. It is rooted in sound theology and personal experience. The author is realistic about the unique and significant challenges faced by those who adopt ("adopt boldly with eyes wide open"), while also extolling the privilege of reflecting God's grace by seeking to rescue a child from darkness ("God enters into this abusive, oppressive family and removes us"). The greatest strength of this book is the transparent way in which the author tells his family's adoption story. He openly shares his own struggles and sins along with his family's experiences of God's grace and mercy. His insights will benefit all parents, not just those who have adopted."
--Dr Jim Newheiser, pastor, author, Director of the Institute of Biblical Counseling and Discipleship, founding member of the Fellowship of Independent Reformed Evangelicals

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